Couples Therapy

A good relationship is more than something we want—it’s something we need to be our happiest, healthiest, most productive selves. A recent 75-year Harvard study indicates that our relationships are the most important factor shaping our overall feelings of joy and happiness in life. But at home or work, supportive, fulfilling relationships don’t come automatically. They take an investment of time and energy, as well as social skills you can learn.

If you are lonely, experiencing conflict, and/or feeling dissatisfied in your relationship with your spouse/partner, you can take steps to repair this connection and build a meaningful, long-lasting, loving relationship together.

Intimacy in Marriage and Attachment

Intimacy is about being emotionally close to your partner, letting your guard down, and letting him or her know how you really feel. Intimacy is also about accepting and sharing your partner’s feelings, and being there when he/she wants to let their defenses down.

Sharing our ‘inner world’ with a partner we love, and sharing our partner’s experiences, is one of the most rewarding aspects of a relationship. Intimacy often doesn’t need words, but putting feelings and experiences into words makes intimacy more likely.

Our ability to be intimate often reflects our attachment patterns. By recognizing our attachment pattern, we can understand our strengths and vulnerabilities in a relationship. An attachment pattern forms in early childhood and continues to serve as a working model for relationships in adulthood. This attachment model influences how each of us responds to our needs and how we work to get them met.

The attachment style you developed as a child doesn’t have to define how you relate to those you love in adulthood. If you come to know your attachment style, you can uncover ways you are defending yourself from getting close and being emotionally connected and work toward forming an “earned secure attachment.”

Our Relationship Therapists

We understand how difficult and sometimes complicated relationships and intimacy can be. We are here to guide, support, and empower you and your partner toward lasting change and commitment.

Marriage Counseling in Glastonbury, CT

Well Life Therapy provides couples therapy, marriage counseling, and other relationship support in Glastonbury, CT. We also serve East Hartford, Marlborough, Hebron, Portland, Cromwell, East Hampton, Rocky Hill, Newington, Wethersfield, New Britain, and the surrounding areas.