The first year of motherhood, specifically with your first, are like nothing you’ve ever experienced before or ever will again. The change of hormones, your new life, your new baby, the demands, the love, the challenges and getting to know and accept the new you. Your new body, your new life. The new you that you have to grow into without losing your womanhood and growing into motherhood. Apparently we’re supposed to do this all gracefully, effortlessly even.
Which, when we take time for self-care, actually has a chance of occurring. Grace creeps back in. Here are some tips and tools to finding some peace and renewed energy while navigating this amazing yet challenging journey.
Rest is extremely important. Sleep when the baby sleeps, or get someone to help care for the baby while you nap.
Give yourself permission to do less. Allow others to help with household chores and other daily tasks. Don’t try to overdo it.
Shower and dress each day. This will help keep your spirits up.
Get out of the house or take some “me” time each day. This is extremely important in helping you keep yourself mentally well.
Be sure to monitor your nutrition habits and water intake in order to keep your body healthy and full of energy.
Exercise (after your doctor gives the ‘ok’) is an extremely important tool in helping you feel healthier and stronger both physically and emotionally. Even going for a short walk can help.
Talk about your feelings with your partner, a friend, or family member. Find others who have experienced motherhood and use them as a support system.
Join a postpartum support group or mother’s group where you can talk with others who are sympathetic to your situation.
Be specific about how your husband and/or others can help you. Assign specific tasks and don’t allow yourself to feel guilty.
Remember that your husband and other loved ones are going through this too. Try to appreciate the efforts they are making.
If your “baby blues” don’t go away within two weeks, if your symptoms are intensifying, or if you are having suicidal thoughts, seek professional help in order to obtain therapy and medications when needed.
Remember that becoming a mother is a life-altering event that takes time to completely understand and get used to. Don’t give up!
